ShadoWork starts with reflection, to cultivate curiousity with your Inner World.
Journalling creates space for your voice to be heard and create a positive loop of self-validation, to become your own attachment figure.
To start journalling, ensue you have a journal you enjoy writing in, a pen you love to write with, and a set-aside time each day - even 3 minutes.
Journalling is more about sitting with a question than arriving at an answer so even pondering a journal prompt on your commute is "journalling".
Write without censoring yourself, unfiltered. If it helps, you can always rip out the pages after writing - it is the writing, the self-admittance that is cathartic.
If you're a creative type, I recommend an oath NOT to use journal prompts for the sake of public consumption until your body gives you permission. And it will.
What are you afraid of? What are you afraid of becoming?
What would you do if there were no consequences? Steal, murder, set fires?
What is original to you? Think back to who you were as a young young child.
What parts of yourself have you betrayed?
What obstacles are in your path?
What are your responsibilities & obligations? How do you differentiate?
What does it mean to let go?
When do you feel incredulous of others (I can’t believe he would do that!)?
When do you have negative feedback from others? (I can’t believe you’re late again!)
When do you have impulsive or inadvertent acts? (Freudian slip)
What are humiliating situations for you? (I can’t believe they saw that)
When do you experience exaggerated anger over others faults? (she let herself go)
What do you find funny?
What fantasies or daydreams are frequent?
What do you judge others for? Think about your inner dialogue when people watching
What do you do that you don't like to do? What in your life feels like a chore?
Who is someone you look up to for being "good"? See if you can notice "bad" in them as well. What makes them human?
When have you felt most powerful? Most alive? What did it feel like in your bodY?
What did you learn about goodness; what it is & what it isn't?
What were you punished for as a child?
Is the voice of your inner critic familiar? Does it remind you of anyone?
Shadow with Others
The Collective Shadow
The collective shadow is comprised of the things we are afraid of, the things we are in denial of, the things we have repressed as a culture. We are taught to repress the parts of our Selves that hold the most potent power so we become afraid of our Selves & our desires.
What did you learn about money?
What did you learn about sex?
What did you learn about the nature of money? Its goodness or badness?
What did you learn about the nature of sex? Its goodness or badness?
What did you learn about death?
What did you learn about anger?
What did you learn about the nature of anger? Its goodness or badness?
What did you learn about the nature of death? To fear it?
Integrating wholeness at the pace of your body
“How can I be substantial if I do not cast a shadow? I must have a dark side also If I am to be whole.”
“There is no growth without real feeling. Children not loved for who they are do not learn how to love themselves. Their growth is an exercise in pleasing others, not in expanding through experience. As adults, they must learn to nurture their own lost child.”
The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek. We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”